tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post2534796719530288948..comments2024-01-17T02:39:06.048-05:00Comments on rude truth: why don't they just leave (once again, sigh)JJThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14920416765778868736noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post-14414451444699201272011-04-18T23:14:28.052-05:002011-04-18T23:14:28.052-05:00Welcome, Robyn, you evil temptress! ;)Welcome, Robyn, you evil temptress! ;)JJThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14920416765778868736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post-64111634176421627452011-04-18T22:10:11.316-05:002011-04-18T22:10:11.316-05:00I met my raised-in-the-church-of-Christ husband wh...I met my raised-in-the-church-of-Christ husband when I was in seminary. Woo baby! I had words for him. Actually, it was remarkable how *little* he knew of WHY his parents' church believed what they did. I "converted" him away, and the elders decided that they had to meet with him to tell him to break up with me because I was an evil influence. He never has gone back and never will. Thank God my in-laws are a little more open-minded and willing to believe that people *can* be Christians without attending and being baptized into the CofC. I'm interested to dig a little deeper into your blog and see what you have to say. I had no idea there was a leaving "movement."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13770781249922378726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post-33582790492994751822011-03-28T09:45:09.440-05:002011-03-28T09:45:09.440-05:00Nah. It takes balls to do either.
I'm really ...Nah. It takes balls to do either.<br /><br />I'm really impatient with attitudes on either side of the go-or-stay that presume there's only one right choice. That's an absolutist attitude that offers one single universal answer to a multitude of particularities. <br /><br />And either way, the same painful theological re-constructive work is necessary. And either way, you get crap from people. So...I'm just not willing to say that one is harder than the other, and def not that one is any better than the other.<br /><br />I especially think it's rotten, in this case, that the "why don't they leave" mantra is getting shouted from both sides of aisle. Bad enough to hear it from the "faithful," which you can expect...but to also get it simultaneously from people who ought to understand where the HUQP is coming from, that's truly harsh.JJThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14920416765778868736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post-37748011895121616102011-03-27T23:10:32.476-05:002011-03-27T23:10:32.476-05:00I read this post a week or so ago, and have been t...I read this post a week or so ago, and have been thinking about it since. As someone who left, I can only say something I've said before: you never really leave.<br /><br />That HU Queer Press means so much to those who are no longer in the Church of Christ demonstrates that a part of us remains behind. Part of us, it would seem, can never leave. And perhaps that's the way it should be.<br /><br />I left because I could no longer stand the tension. But my thoughts have returned to the CofC lately, and I wonder if I made the right choice. I wonder if I could be doing some good if I'd stayed.<br /><br />I spoke today with the minister of the CofC that asked me to leave. I told him that though I was no longer a member of his church, I still had an interest in his congregation. I don't mean an interest in the sense of curiosity or a desire to observe the happenings of the church. I mean that I have a stake in the Church of Christ. And always will.<br /><br />I don't think that those who left are the ones who grew a pair. I think it's the ones who stay.Scott Lybrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372957893832470084noreply@blogger.com