tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post19140857437347722..comments2024-01-17T02:39:06.048-05:00Comments on rude truth: "her body doesn't belong to you!"JJThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14920416765778868736noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post-55912887314578799242012-11-05T20:56:27.717-05:002012-11-05T20:56:27.717-05:00The thing that makes it all so difficult is that I...The thing that makes it all so difficult is that I think everyone wholeheartedly agrees with all of that! And I feel like we tried hard to acknowledge that and honor that. And, it makes a difference (to me) that the author herself seems to be okay with the whole thing. That seems like germane info that might have been revealed early on or even part of the original post, but maybe everyone else was in-the-know enough to assume that was the case without it being made explicit.<br /><br />Personally I can't get over the conviction that having a bunch of other people say vagina over and over as a response to being told you can't say vagina isn't empowering. That's why I feel like the comment by Ayin in the blog discussion over there is actually really spot on. (Ahem. "") The voice that was the subject of the attempted silencing is still in fact missing from the whole vagina limerick spree and that is one way to capture the whole problem. <br /><br />I also get why some might see our commentary as some sort of attempt to stand in for that missing voice. That's not what I was trying to do and I don't see that in Julie's words either. I very consciously tried not to frame things in a "If I were her" sort of way, mapping what I see as problematic onto someone else. JJThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14920416765778868736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12478084.post-88027994931575790592012-11-05T19:24:21.002-05:002012-11-05T19:24:21.002-05:00I think the problem with the controversy of Lifewa...I think the problem with the controversy of Lifeway is that underlying it all is the belief that women are reducible to their scary, scary vaginas - seductive sex and virginal (yes, ironic) baby-spouting. The author of the book may have done something interesting, written something interesting, but she transgressed in acting like vagina is a matter-of-fact part of life. I suspect that it is secretly the author as a whole person who is feared, but can be cut down by putting down the part that is supposed to represent her. Clear as mud? So I agree with you about limericks, and I agree that there is no way to unpublicize what is already public. Rather than ridicule what has already been scorned, humanizing the woman as a whole. Your mother is not a vagina, your friend, your sister, your daughter, are not vaginas. They have them, and they are non-scary. In fact, they are kind of awesome, but even so, don't make up the whole person. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08900088102150005112noreply@blogger.com